To heal a wound, you must feel the wound. And society says, “Don’t feel.” And that’s why so many of us are living in our heads and that’s why so many of us are limiting our performance because we have that field of hurt inside of us, all of that dark, toxic energy. Carl Jung called it our shadow selves, some people call it our demons, and the key to moving through that is, first of all, understanding we have that field of hurt, but then actually saying, “I’m actually going to feel those feelings to release those feelings.” When you start to feel anger or sadness or resentment or disappointment, society says, “Run away, medicate yourself, get busy, drink a glass of wine, get on your phone, escape.” And yet the great ones understand that when an emotion comes up that’s messy or a toxic emotion. If you have the awareness and then the courage to feel it, it will release. And a little bit of that field of hurt I mentioned will start to dissolve.
