So let’s say someone has really hurt you. Let’s say someone has betrayed. So let’s say someone has been dishonest to you, and you’re really incredibly hurt by them. What do most people do? They escape. this is very powerful, so please be with me on this because most people, what they do is they escape from the feeling. They’re feeling pain. They’re feeling anger. Maybe you’re feeling rage and society says to us, “Don’t feel the feeling.” Well here’s what it does. If you don’t feel the feeling, you will repress the feeling into your subconscious. Carl Jung called it the vast unconscious. And the more you repress the anger or the more you’re repress the hurt, the pain, the shame, the guilt, the more you will operate under a condition that psychologists call projection. And then you will go forward into your life but you really won’t go forward, you will be stuck in the past.All the pain of the betrayal, all the anger from that person who hurt you, that you haven’t forgiven is still within you, you’ve just repressed it, and then you start seeing a reality born of pain. Yous tart seeing your life, not through the present moment, but through what Joseph Campbell called your stain glass window and again, it’s called projection. And here’s a very powerful idea. You’re not seeing the world as it is, you’re seeing the world as you are. You’re seeing the world through a filter and the filter is created by all the pain, all the shame, all the guilt, all the anger that you’ve very oppressed. We all do this. When someone has hurt you, feel the feeling, how do you do that? Write about it in a journal. How do you do that? You talk about it with a close friend. How do you do that? You walk in the woods alone and you talk it out. I remember meeting one person, she was a native elder and she had been very hurt by someone. She went out into the woods and she would take pieces of branches of trees and screaming the energy out of her system. She would hit the branches in the protection of solitude and nature. And so, feel the feeling, don’t repress it, you’ll release projection, you’ll be very clear internally emotionally. You’ll be very clear internally intellectually, that will free you up to do amazing things.
