Understand that the brain has a natural negativity bias. And I’ve alluded to this and spoken about this on previous podcasts, but this ancient brain, the amygdala, it served us really well, it was a survival mechanism that was developed within the human brain, hundreds and thousands of years ago. So we were out on the Savannah and we had to fight, we had to be hypervigilant to sabertooth tigers, to starvation, to being killed. And now we are in modern society, but we still have this ancient brain, this negativity bias, and what I’m suggesting to you, and I know you know this, but how many times in your own life you have a great day, you focus on the tiny losses. You have a great life, your brain naturally goes to the things that are not right. You give a great presentation to a hundred people and you focus
on one negative. With your intimate partner, he or she has a thousand incredible qualities and you focus on the three negative qualities. Why does that happen? It’s because your brain ha
s a natural bias towards negativity, the negativity bias.
Again, tonight, pull out your journal and write about the negativity bias and how that’s depleting you and how that’s limiting you. You want to recode your mindset to fight and then beat, and then transcend your brain’s natural negativity bias. And how do you do that? You simply focus on where you are winning. Rather than saying what needs to improve you can ask yourself this great question and journal about it, you can do a 30 day journaling challenge where you start to ask yourself self, where am I winning in my life? And you do that every day, you start to rewire your neurobiology and your interior psychology.
You can ask yourself before you go to sleep every night, I call this the nightly three. It’s one of
the rituals I teach at my events like the Titan Summit. And every night before you go to sleep, you can do this while you’re laying in bed, just mentally, or you can write it down. You can keep your journal by your bedside table. It’s a ritual you can install. Ask yourself what are three good things that happened to me today and wherever possible, let’s say you do a nature walk, let’s say you’re commuting home from the office. You start to build these rituals where you train your brain because the brain is a muscle and you start to ask yourself, where am I winning? What was good today? What am I grateful for in my life? Here’s another great question, how could this be worse?