How many times in your own life, you have a great day, you focus on the tiny losses? You have a great life, your brain naturally goes to the things that are not right. You give a great presentation to 100 people and you focus on one negative comment. With your intimate partner, he or she has 1000 incredible qualities, and you focus on the 3 negative qualities. Why does that happen? It’s because your brain has a natural bias towards negativity, the negativity bias, and again, tonight, pull out your journal and write about the negativity bias and how that’s depleting you and how that’s limiting you. You want to recode your mindset to fight, and then beat, and then transcend your brain’s natural negativity bias. And how do you do that? You simply focus on where you are winning. Rather than saying “What needs to improve?”, you can ask yourself this great question and journal about it, you can do a 30-day journaling challenge where you start to ask yourself, “Where am I winning my life?” You can ask yourself before you go to sleep every night. I call this the nightly three. It’s one of the rituals I teach at my events, like the Titan Summit. And every night before you go to sleep, you can do this while you’re laying in bed, just mentally, or you can write it down. You can keep your journal by your bedside table. It’s a ritual you can install. Ask yourself; “What are three good things that happened to me today?” And wherever possible, let’s say you do a nature walk, let’s say you’re commuting home from the office, you start to build these rituals where you train your brain, because the brain is a muscle. And you start to ask yourself, “Where am I winning? What was good today? What am I grateful for in my life?” And you do that every day, you start to rewire your neurobiology and your interior psychology.
