Kindness is not a weakness. Anyone can be aggressive because often aggression comes from insecurity and beneath insecurity is fear. When we are in a low grade fear, we’re contracted, our hearts are closed. We’re not intimate with our empathy.
When you’re scared you contract. You do anything required to be safe. I’m going deep in this episode because I know you want to go deep. You don’t want light insights that you see in all these social media posts, dream big, be happy, happy, grind it, win. Depth is important right now if you’re on the field in hot pursuit of outright personal mastery and true leadership. If you really want to get real results, forget superficiality, let’s go to granularity and let’s get
deep. And so one of the things I want to say to you is we resist our kindest selves only when we’re scared.
When we’re scared, it’s all about we go into survival. I could get into the neurobiology of it. I could talk about limbic hijack. Your limbic system is the survival part of your brain. When you get scared, you naturally go into survival, fight, flight, freeze. And literally your perception narrows, your heartbeat increases, and it becomes all about staying safe. Now here’s the powerful point. There are a lot of people who have experienced so much trauma in their life,
famous leaders, famous titans, or people that you know personally. They’ve experienced so much pain, so much loss, so much trauma that their daily normal is a state of fear. And because they’re in a state of fear, they’re living not in their higher part of their brain and their higher part of their humanity. They’re living in constant limbic hijack, which means their perception is narrow and their hearts are closed. They’re just trying to feel safe. I hope that makes sense. I believe it’s a profound point.