You have a responsibility to manage yourself. Sometimes people say, “Well, my boss is grumpy and cranky and doesn’t really appreciate me.”
One of the key ideas is people don’t leave companies, they leave the people they worked with. You’ve heard that before. That’s not my idea. That’s out there. But the point on lead or lead thyself is you’re responsible for managing your Mindset, your Heartset, your Healthset, your Soulset. Every time you blame your boss or your husband or your wife, your past, or your children, the economy, or your nationality, you’re giving away your power to be the change you want to see, to use the words of Mahatma Gandhi. APR, absolute responsibility, make the leap, the victim to leader leap.
Victims give away their power to conditions, leaders roll up their sleeves and say, “If it’s going to be, it is up to me. What’s going on in my life? How can I manage my internal psychology and physiology and dial in those Four Interior Empires so I literally fireproof my Mindset, bulletproof my Heartset, calibrate my Healthset, and develop my Soulset so I literally become this force of nature?” That has such a strong character, that no matter what happens in the world, I don’t get activated, I don’t feel insecure if someone else is winning.I don’t get knocked off my A-Game if I get some bad news. I’m not a victim. I am a leader.