Ask yourself this question, what’s the opportunity here. That’s what WTOH stands for, what’s the opportunity here? What I’ve realized is when things don’t work out, the victim says, “Oh, boo hoo, poor me.” They get stuck in sadness or anger or regret and some of them spend the rest of their life in that state. What the leader does is this, you feel the pain, you notice the disappointment, you never want to suppress that, that would build up the toxic emotions within you. So feel the disappointment. If it’s you forgot your keys somewhere, you lost your wallet, you missed the train, you missed a meeting, you lost a sale. Or maybe it’s something heavier, you just got your heartbroken.
You just lost your job, you just got some negative news from your doctor at your annual checkup. I mean, that’s one of the things that happens in life we all face very hard times. When those things happen, feel the emotion do not suppress it because the quickest way out of the painful or sad emotions is straight in. But here’s the real key. Ask yourself, what’s the opportunity here? How can I use this small or large negative event to grow? How can I use this situation to give me more wisdom, to give me more acumen, to make me more experienced? How can I use this situation to strengthen me and fortify me? How can I use this situation to become more authentic and more real? Because it’s the difficult things in life that crack open our social mask and allow us to be more real and more authentic. How can I use this situation to build my relatability? So I’m more relatable to human beings and ultimately, how can I use
this situation as fuel to make my life even better? And so the WTOH tool is a very pow
erful tool, but like any other tool, it gets better with use.