I really do believe that when we’re first born, we are most connected to our native wonder. It was Picasso who said, “It took me four years to paint like Raphael. It took me a lifetime to remember how to paint like a child.” It’s a very powerful point. So when we are kids, we speak truthfully. When we are kids, we’re not worried about failure. When we are kids, we don’t care about rejection. When we are kids, we talk the way we want to talk. When we are kids, we are intimate with our dreams and intimate with our gifts and intimate with our talents. When we are kids, we don’t see people as people of different colors or different religions or different backgrounds. You see a bunch of kids who don’t even know each other in the playground? Five minutes, they’ll say, “Look, mommy, here’s my new best friend.”But what happens is, as we go through life, we experience self-betrayal. I call it the “self-betrayal continuum.” As we get older, we get knocked down and as we get knocked down, we get hurt. And we start to close, we start to contract. We don’t get invited to the right birthday party. A teacher says that we’re not that smart. A friend says we don’t look very good or we walk in a different way. We get a little older, we fall in love, we get our heart broken. We get a little older, our best friend betrays us. We get a little older, we get disappointed on a lost business deal. We get a little even older and someone attacks us because they’re jealous of our success. And the very nature of life is we have these times on the mountain top and we have these times in the valley of darkness. And what that starts to do is it causes us to forget who we truly are. And I think this is a profound insight for you. It sets up this field of hurt. As we go through life, we get disappointed and pain starts to occur. And society tells us, “Well, don’t feel the pain.” So what we do is, and this is a key point as well, we start to repress and swallow the pain and the disappointment. And that builds this field of hurt, which is really the energy of fear. And most people carry it. And so, what we start to do is rather than working through the fear and releasing it… And that’s why mindset work is so important. Working through your emotions. So many people talk about mindset as the gateway into exponential productivity.I believe Mindset without Heartset is an empty victory. I think you absolutely have to work through your mindset so you install the beliefs of excellence and mastery and extraordinary, but I think it’s also very important to do that heart set work so you release the lower grade emotions of resentment, disappointment, fear, scarcity, self-loathing. We have this self-betrayal unfolding in our lives, which causes this repressed and suppressed energy field of pain. And so, we have these great dreams and we learn these great methodologies and we have these amazing intentions, and then when we start to apply them, we’re at war with ourselves.
