I suggest to you an incredibly valuable insight, and it’s to heal a wound, we must feel a wound. It’s so simple. To heal a wound, you must feel the wound. In other words, go back, and it’s a process that would probably take you the rest of your life, but it’s one of the best processes you could do. Every time you do a little bit of it, you get more of a payoff, and you move forward. But start the journey of thinking more about your Heartset. Then if someone says something to you that makes you feel sad or makes you feel angry or makes you feel inferior or makes you feel insecure or makes you feel frightened or makes you feel bad, rather than blame … because every time you point a finger at another person, you’ve got three fingers back at you.
Start looking at what’s going on in your body. This is a process. Like any practice, you’ll get better the more you do it. Start locating in your body what’s going on. You’re going to start to notice the more you do it, you’ll be able to locate maybe some tension in your solar plexus, maybe a sensation in your stomach. Maybe it’s a pain in your throat, which often is unexpressed anger, unexpressed sadness. You’ve lost your voice. The more you start to
do this, you notice the pain in your throat. Or if there’s a tension in your solar plexus, this is your seat of your power. It’s because you’ve given away your power.
What I’m suggesting is doing the Heartset work begins with understanding you’re not just a
human doing. You’re a human feeling. The great poets and the great artists and the great business-builders and the great humanitarians are people who had intimacy and fluency with their feelings. Society shows us these leaders who are yelling. They’ve got anger in their eyes. I see some of them, and the way they talk and the way they look, they don’t look like powerful, in control, loving, brave leaders, like a Nelson Mandela, or a Mother Teresa or Rosa Parks, or Martin Luther King Jr. These people look angry.
What I’m really suggesting is when you start to feel, you become more powerful. I’m going to
say it again because it’s so important. When you give yourself permission to feel, you become really powerful. It takes an incredible amount of courage to feel who you are. I should say, as well, the more you start feeling, the better work you’re going to do. The more authentic your craft will be. The more people will read your work or consume your products. They will feel the feelings and passion and love and caring that you put into your work. This is not a symptom of weakness. This is a symptom of excellence and great and vast courage.