Make the time and develop the ability to like yourself more. You are the only person who will be with you your entire lifetime. We’re going to lose loved ones. People come and go. You are the only person that will be with you as long as you are alive. And so why not build intimacy and fluency with you. Your relationship with yourself. Powerful point here. Your relationship with yourself sets up your relationship with your spouse, the rest of your family. Your relationship with yourself is really what drives your relationship with your teammates and coworkers. Your relationship with yourself sets up your relationship with money because you’ll never have a higher income than your self-identity. Your relationship with yourself drives your performance and your career. Your relationship with yourself sets up your entire relationship with your world. The doorway to success then swings inward, not outward. And as you build that relationship with your inner self, as you build a relationship with your values, as you build the relationship with your gifts and your talents, as you meditate and contemplate and reflect on your true wisdom, what starts to happen is you peel away your ego, which is simply the voice of your fear. And you get to know that inner warrior and that primal genius that lurks within every human heart. You have it, but is your ego screaming more loudly then your inner hero? And if that’s the case, then you’re not intimate with who you truly are. Life’s greatest betrayal is not knowing who you truly are. So where do you get to know your best self? In the twilight of quiet. It is in the tranquility of the early morning hours or maybe those quiet hours before you go to sleep where you can pull out a journal and write about the person you’ve always wanted to be. It might be where you meditate on the person you want to become. You might want to pray in your quiet hours alone about what you want your life to stand for. I spend a lot of time early in the morning with my eyes closed, visualizing the life I want to create. All I know is my best thinking, my greatest self-excavation, my highest personal growth doesn’t happen when I’m in a room full of people. It happens when I have carved out the time to be alone. That’s when I can hear the silent whispers of my greatest self. Well, you can’t be alone and you won’t make time to be tranquil if you’re scared of yourself. You see, I believe a lot of people, the reason why they’re on their phones all day long or watching TV all day long,or busy being busy or addicted to alcohol or medication or gossiping, those are simply flights and escapes from intimacy with who they truly are. You see, what I’m really saying is most people have all this pain and self-hatred deep within them. So because they’ve never processed through that pain, they need to structure their life to be busy where they’re always doing things because they’re scared of being alone. Because when you’re alone, you not only start thinking, you start feeling. I’m going to repeat that again because it’s so fundamentally important. When you are alone, all your deepest feelings that you’ve been resisting come out. Is that hard and uncomfortable? It is, but that’s where your growth is. There’s a concept I teach, not only mindset, which everyone’s talking about. There’s a word I’ve introduced for the past few years in my work called Heartset and also Healthset and Soulset. But on the Heartset point, when you start to feel that pain and get to know that pain, you release that pain. The way to heal a wound is to feel a wound. And trust me, every single human being on the planet, unless you’re enlightened, has wounds and associated pain. And so in the quiet times, yes you can read, and you can meditate, and yes you can think, and yes you can grow, but you can also go into your Heartset and start processing through the toxic emotions that are actually limiting your performance, your creativity, productivity, prosperity, and impact on humanity.
