I think in many ways Heartset is the missing link to personal transformation. Why? Because when we read a book or when we often talk to someone, we get a great idea. We get it at a cognitive level, we get it in the mindset, so we know what to do. But why do so many of us self-sabotage ourselves and not do what we know? And this is a very powerful insight I’m about to share with you. The reason why we don’t do what we know we should do is because of our emotional wounding. And this is why real transformation starts at an emotional level, not at an intellectual level.
And this is why I say Heartset, this word I’ve created is the missing link to personal transformation. It is not until you get the idea as a felt feeling versus as an intellectual insight, that you actually start acting on it. I’m going to repeat that again because it’s so important. It’s not until you get an important idea as a felt feeling in your body versus only as an intellectual insight within your mindset, that you actually get
transformation.
So as you start to work on your Mindset, but also purify your Heartset, as you start to feel those darker feelings that society says, “Don’t feel,” as you start to go into those feelings, they actually start to move through you. Because here is another incredibly valuable principle; to heal a wound, you must feel the wound. And society says, “Don’t feel,” and that’s why so many of us are living in our heads. And that’s why so many of us are limiting our performance, because we have that field of hurt inside of us, all of that dark, toxic energy. Carl Jung called it our shadow selves. Some people call it our demons. And the key to moving through that is, first of all, understanding we have that field of hurt, but then actually saying, “I’m actually going to feel those feelings to release those feelings.” When you start to feel anger, or sadness, or resentment, or disappointment, society says, “Run away. Medicate yourself. Get busy. Drink a glass of wine. Get on your phone. Escape.” And yet, the great ones understand that when an emotion comes up that’s a messy or a toxic emotion, if you have the awareness and then the courage to feel it, it will release. And a little bit of that field of hurt I mentioned will start to dissolve.