So just remember that people who are in pain, do painful things. People who are frightened, are aggressive, often loud, bang their chest, selfish, they’re really interested in having a lot of fame and fortune in the world because deep within them is a scared little child that is just trying to feel safe. And they have hypnotized and brainwashed themselves to thinking, if they get the yacht and all the social media likes and a big house and a high position in the world, they’re going to be loved and feel safer. What I suggest to you is play a different game of leadership. Go into yourself and explore that pain. Ask yourself why you might not be compassionate to people. Ask yourself maybe why you’re not expressing your truest self to your friends, coworkers, strangers. Ask yourself, “Am I insecure?” Ask yourself why you’re not a merchant of kindness. Ask yourself why you’re not the most positive person in every room that you’re in, and start exploring the insecurity, exploring the repressed pain, exploring the hurt.
So you leave limbic hijack and living a life designed to make you just feel safe in the world, and you actually go into the world as a leader and as a hero, because it’s the giver that wins the most.The more I work with love, with the intention of love, the more influence I have, the more I try to give to my family, give to my friends, give to the people around me, give to the world, the more the world replies to my kindness. I’ve discovered life has an awesome accounting system, and we get from life not what we take, we get from life what we give. It’s so counterintuitive, the ego says, “Take.” That’s why the ego is our voice of insecurity and fear. We all have a higher nature. We all have a primal hero deep within us.I get very deep into it, if you’re interested, read The 5AM Club, I get deep into how to be a genius, how to build a relationship with your primal hero. It’s a lot more then a book about the morning routine of history-makers right now. I simply want to remind you, you have a deeper nature, a higher order, and a primal genius living inside of you right now. And that deeper genius and hero is all being kind and being loving and bringing great value to as many as people as possible.And the true history makers understand that, that the more people you help, the more your life gets upgraded in ways that you cannot imagine. It is just stunning to me how when you make it about being kind… And that doesn’t just mean hugging people or doing nice things for people or being compassionate to people, doing work that is beautiful and poetic so that it serves your customers is being kind, taking the time to help a stranger in need is being kind, taking the time in your busiest day to listen to a family member who just needs listening is kind.Sitting down with an industry peer who could be “your competitor” and saying, “Here’s how Idid it. Here is the opportunity for you. Here is what I would do if I were you. Here are my contacts.” That kind of kindness to a industry peer not only helps that other human being, believe me, that kindness will come back to you 100x. Just because the world doesn’t think like that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have the bravery to live like that if it feels right for you.So, to wrap this up with a bow, kindness is not a manifestation or a habit of weak people.Nelson Mandela went through 27 years of incarceration, 18 years on Robben Island. He was tortured.He was asked to dig a grave and lay in it. And then he was urinated on and laughed at. And yet, when he emerged from prison, what did he do? The jailer that kept him in prison was invited to his inauguration when Mandela became president of South Africa, because Nelson Mandela had built and fortified kindness within him. And he was asked, “Why would you do that?” And he said, “Because if I didn’t, I would still be in prison.”If you have not built that universe of strength within you so that you have the power to be kind, well, then you’re still in prison, and we all are, and the world will be less of a place, but for your full on expression of kindness.